Early days, maternal blues | 2021
It’s not really surprising that you feel a little fragile, is it. Your body has just gone through nine months of carrying and caring for a little human followed by the arduous ordeal of bringing it into the world. Your hormones are all over the place, you’re probably tired, you’ve been woken up all the time, it’s no wonder you feel like crying.
It will pass, but if it feels like it’s a problem or the baby blues continues to help you, your doctor or nurse will help. Don’t be in pain alone if it persists, you need help or it may spoil the relationship with your spouse or prevent you from bonding with your child.
Suddenly you can no longer walk into a store to get more milk or a forgotten birthday card. There has been a major change in lifestyle. You have to plan your trips around napping and feeding times. You will adjust to your new lifestyle and enjoy getting to know and love this vulnerable newcomer, but it will take time to develop a routine. Accept this, and you will learn to love your new life and the amazing joys of parenthood.
Meanwhile, welcome any help from your spouse or family while you feel a little weak. You may miss your co-workers too, try not to become too aloof, keep in touch with your co-workers, I’m sure they would love to see your child. Also join mother and baby support groups that you will find helpful in talking to other mothers; It’s easy to find local groups online.
Your partner may also feel the pressures of the new lifestyle, but still have to go to work, despite some sleep deprivation. He may also feel a little isolated and not know how to help. It will take some time to adapt. Be kind and supportive to each other and your relationship will become stronger. Try and see the funny side of little accidents too and relax.
Now is the time to pamper yourself and take advantage of our offers of help. Explain what can help you the most. It could be some shopping, washing the kitchen floor or a few hours to catch up on sleep while your mom’s sister or trusted friend takes care of your baby. Don’t expect too much from yourself or be hard on yourself. Feeling tired and exhausted will pass and allow others to help you